Your adventure with online dating starts with your profile picture.
It is just normal that you wish to have a picture that will stand out among the millions of other daters.
I think I am quite attractive, intelligent, and accomplished.
I try at least to send a short polite “No, thank you.” when someone contacts me and I’m not interested.
One, when in Rome, and two, frankly it’s a lot easier than responding and rejecting, something I have always been very bad at and extremely uneasy doing.
If you get approached by someone you don’t find attractive, for whatever reason, you simply hit delete and move on. I began adapting to these odd new cultural mores, for a couple of reasons.
Maybe it will help you if you’ve found yourself or someone you know in a similar situation. Often when I contact a man whose profile I like, he doesn’t even bother to answer.None of us likes to be rejected, and if we have any empathy about us at all we’re uncomfortable inflicting pain and/or embarrassment on someone – especially since that person’s only crime is thinking we’re kinda neat. When I first signed up for back in 2010 I didn’t know the rules. It turns out that I much prefer being ignored to being acknowledged in cases of rejection.I remember feeling obliged, when I got a message from a woman who didn’t interest me, to try and craft a nice reply that didn’t make her feel bad about herself. If there’s no contact, it’s harder to take it personally.Some men do this too, but more often than not, they just don’t bother to write back.Well, unfortunately, you are apparently more courteous that most.