We can’t go anywhere without someone asking us, “How can I tell my friend-daughter-sister-niece-cousin she is dating the wrong guy?”We recently received an email from a woman who was panicked about her sister’s upcoming wedding. She’s engaged to a total loser and is about to make the biggest mistake of her life. She cooks, she cleans, and she pays his bills while he sits around playing video games all day. We are a community of women, and we need to be real and honest with one another.We don't ever want to be treated like sh*t; we want to have partners who are good for us, and we want to have healthy relationships. Soon, all of your friends hate the guy you're dating and you're constantly complaining about him. Once you're in a relationship, it isn't easy to just let go and walk away. The entire human population just doesn't know him like I do.10. This person has trapped you in his web, and your infatuation makes you want to hold on with all your might. He might have bad manners, but he wasn't raised like I was.11. We've all been in relationships with guys who've treated us like nothing. Why would a girl date a guy who was a total douche? The thing about assh*les is it isn't exactly easy to decipher their assh*leness straight from the get-go — hence the reason we end up dating them… Little by little (OK, sometimes all at once) their true nature comes to the forefront. She’s a brilliant researcher, a talented musician, and a wonderful friend. I have shared my concerns, but she says she loves him and that I simply don’t understand what a great guy he is."Katie’s response is typical. If you are a mother concerned about your daughter, the same is true for you. You must do everything within your power to stop her from crashing.
And when he's acting like a dick, you choose to make excuses to every person you know — including yourself — to keep him around instead of cutting him loose.
JUST LET HER LEARN, AND DO ONOT BE MAD BECAUSE SHE IS IN LOVE, AND CAN NOT SEE WHAT THE GUY IS ABOUT,, BE THERE TO CATCH HER, WHEN SHE FALLS, WHEN SHE IS SAD, OR SCARED, OR IN PAIN ..
BE A REAL BROTHER AND LOVE HER NOMATTER WHAT HER CHOICE,, AND IN TIME, IN THE YEARS TO COME, YOU WILL STILL BE HER BROTHER, AND HER YOUR SISTER,, IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO MAKE HER DECISOINS, BUT IT IS YOUR JOB TO BE A BROTHER, AND BE THERE FOR HER AND ACCEPT HER, LET HER LEARN HER OWN LESSONS, JUST AS YOUR FAMILY, LETS YOU LEARN YOURS,, OK I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND, LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY..
You slowly drift apart, and the very thing you were trying to avoid (losing her as a friend) happens anyway.
I have a sister that's 10 years younger than me and she's always looked up to me as her favorite brother.