I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents.Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.In Hollywood alone, more and more women are dating younger men and for good reason.Younger men are more fun, exciting, energetic, inclined to romantic gestures, and are less likely to be deceitful.
You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player.
I hate to generalize, but in general, both men and women suffer from ageism. They know what they want, and they're not afraid to tell you.
Men much less because men gain power as they get older. Men are seen as gaining experience and being distinguished. Gloria Steinem Clearly older women and especially older women who have led an active life or elder women who successfully maneuver through their own family life have so much to teach us about sharing, patience, and wisdom. Taye Diggs If you've got the body and the chutzpah, a pencil skirt is so sexy on older women. Think 1940s, cinched-in jackets - imagine you are Lauren Bacall on a date with Humphrey Bogart and you just absolutely have to wear very high heels.
“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness.
Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.